With the prevalence of stress in the workplace and the world, I offer trauma recovery coaching for people who have gone through extreme events in their life and are working hard to hold it together. Most of the time, a person dealing with any kind of PTSD needs extra tools in understanding what is happening in their life and how to hold it together as they recover from whatever happened to them.
From war to domestic violence, big time dysfunction is rampant in our world. Many of us have a hard time coping with what is happening in the world. Often we can simply turn off the news and live in our self-imposed but safe feeling world. Other times, a trauma comes into our life and we no longer feel safe.
A traumatic event is defined by the National Institute of Health as an experience that causes physical, emotional, psychological distress, or harm. It is an event that is perceived and experienced as a threat to one’s safety or to the stability of one’s world.
A traumatic event may involve:
- A move to a new location
- Leaving or being fired from a job
- Death of a friend, family member, or pet
- Divorce, separation or end of a close relationship
- Physical injury or illness
- Separation from loved ones, or as a child, from parents
- Mass disaster (ie: flood, hurricanes, earthquakes, etc)
At the time of a traumatic event, the person experiencing the event is usually in disbelief and then shock, and often does not know how to respond. The mind usually wants to forget and move on – rationalizing and minimizing the impact of the traumatic event on one’s life. We often do not realize how traumatic our event was until we start telling people about it and see their shocked reaction. The mind is brilliant at helping us deny the experience, especially if we came close to dying. This is important to remember as we heal – that we employ defense mechanisms that help us cope, but we are still suffering from the impact if we are not able to live our regular life.
Sometimes after a traumatic event, a person becomes helpless, fearful, or even horrified at things that never bothered them before. Common feelings that people experience after a trauma are anxiety, panic, fear, loss of trust, and blankness. It is very common to not even know the feelings you are feeling since you have never felt them before at this level. All you know, is often you feel uneasy, tense, you can’t breathe, you can’t concentrate, you don’t want to be around people, and often you just don’t feel anything at all.
After a while, you don’t want to talk about it or revisit the story with anyone, you just want to get back to normal life, so you refuse to talk about it and dismiss the painful feelings that came along with it. Even when you feel irritated at someone for no good reason or deal with a situation poorly with fear, panic, or blankness – you know something is off inside but you don’t know what to do about it. You long to be like you were before the trauma happened and you may even deny that you are triggered even though everyone is looking at you like you are nuts. And you suffer inside with this imbalance, while pretending everything is ok.
Traumatic events certainly change how we see ourselves and the world.
I have had a dual career in business and counseling and help people who are have dealt with especially traumatic events.
I teach PTSD recovery classes that are informational in nature. I coach clients and teach tools to aid people in their recovery. Much of the time people do not understand what is happening with their system and why they are still feeling so stressed after a traumatic event has long passed.
My own counseling education and work started before I was carjacked at gunpoint. I had symptoms that did not subside even after a year of therapy, medication and chiropractic. I needed to educate myself and I took a holistic approach to my healing.
I employ a somatic approach so you can start to master what is happening in your body. You know you don’t feel your regular self anymore and have a hard time coping with things that never bothered you before.
Trauma causes a physiological (not necessarily a psychological) disruption that needs to be inspected in the body rather than the mind in order to heal the whole person. We can accomplish this through a complete inventory of your life, going over several areas to see where your weak link is and strengthen it. We also use holistic exercise (yoga, qi gong, tai chi for example) as a way to help you focus your entire self (mind and body) on something that is beneficial to you. Nutrition is also necessary to address to see if you are eating the most beneficial foods for your healing.
I teach my students how to work with their physiological (adrenaline and cortisol) experience, dealing with intrusive thoughts, and reframing their experience teaching knowledge from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Somatic Experiencing.
My main orientation is Nonviolent (Compassionate) Communication as it helps a you communicate your needs in way that helps you connect again with others. The result can be a deeper sense of empathy and love for people around you, and the ability to distinguish between safe and not safe when feeling triggered.
Classes are custom designed based on your individual or organizational need. I use a lot of empathy, knowledge, and healing skills. Please visit http://www.healingcoachmichelle.com for more information.